TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Violence at the hands of a malevolent, calculating abuser, someone you cared for and loved unconditionally, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting, deliberate smearing and significant losses you’ve endured and then to be able to understand, express and heal from your trauma can be especially challenging. Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal. Book 4 (this yellow volume) of the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books provides information on and an emotional, experiential response to many terms & phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation, as well as Intergenerational Family Trauma. Reading these free-verse poems may result in much-needed validation as you reflect on what you’ve been through while you connect the dots to your own experiences. In time, the abuser’s mask slips, and with your own research and creative outlet, you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice, reclaim your authenticity and live a blessed and happy life filled with abundance, gratitude and love. Realizing that you’ve experienced Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and/or Intergenerational Family Trauma, understanding and expressing your ordeal can be challenging. To help you on your healing journey, please refer to the words in Book 1 (blue) volume of this series: TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 Terms & Phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation The acrostic poems in Books 2 and 3 of the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books provide information on and an emotional, experiential response to many terms & phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation, as well as Intergenerational Family Trauma. Reading and creating these acrostic poems may result in much-needed validation as you reflect on what you’ve been through while you connect the dots to your own experiences. Writing can help make sense of your emotions and experiences and can be extremely therapeutic on your healing journey. In time, the abuser’s mask slips, and with your own research and creative outlet, you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice, reclaim your authenticity and live a blessed and happy life filled with abundance, gratitude and love. In the second (green) volume of the series, these terms & phrases were used to inspire alphabetical acrostic poems. There are 13 poems for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet, resulting in 338 acrostic poems. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Alphabetical Acrostic Anthems on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation The corresponding third (red) volume of the series is a Survivor’s Acrostic Poetry Workbook, where the reader is able to personally create, write and author his or her own acrostic poems. For each letter of the alphabet there are suggested terms & phrases, 1 completed poem for an example, 2 poem recommendations and 3 lined pages for words/poems of your own choosing. This results in 6 poems for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet, so there will be 156 poems when the workbook is completed. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Survivor’s Acrostic Poetry Workbook on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation Recovering from the extreme complex trauma and stress of this type of abuse is a process and takes a great deal of time. It can be compared to other significant losses where you are forced to navigate through the stages of grief. You may have been able to move on or move far away to reclaim your life and start over, but you continue to be haunted by your experiences and dashed hopes for your future. Most of us have to deal with breaking trauma bonds and our abuser’s continued emotional, physical, cyber or legal stalking and harassment for years. You may feel alone and lonely as your support system has vanished, although in time, this period of isolation proves to be helpful as you regain your independence and inner strength. During your recovery efforts of self-healing and self-love and to understand your role in this unfortunate situation, it is helpful to reflect and examine your family of origin dynamics and acknowledge your own childhood traumas, abandonment issues, core wounds and possible intergenerational abuse that most likely contributed to your naivety and unmet emotional needs which eventually led you to choosing toxic, controlling and abusive partnerships. This history may have contributed to you trusting too much too soon, being an over-giver or having weak boundaries, making you the perfect target for your abuser. I would like to offer words of hope and encouragement to all of the men, women and children who find themselves navigating Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and/or Intergenerational Family Trauma. Know that you are a beautiful, loving soul who should be treated with kindness and respect. You are not crazy. You didn’t do anything to deserve the malicious treatment you received at the hands of your abuser and his/her Flying Monkeys. Don’t be hard on yourself that it took you so long to finally see things for what they really are; abusers are skilled master-manipulators and put great efforts into hiding their venomous, vindictive and vile deceit behind their fraudulent mask. Remember, nobody is perfect and we are all here to learn life’s lessons. You know the truth of what you’ve been through. Understanding ourselves, as well as learning the dynamics of toxic individuals who engage in Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and/or Parental Alienation, can be very enlightening and help empower you to move towards peace and self-actualization. Your survivor voice matters. Turn your negative experiences into positive opportunities to evolve into the genuine person that you were meant to be. Don’t be surprised if you experience some type of Spiritual Awakening and are now more in tune with the universe’s signs and synchronicities. Have faith. This may be a good time to reconnect, embrace and trust in a Divine Higher Source. You never know, God could even come to your garage sale!