Your Pet Is Gone

Chapter 2 The Challenge of the Grief Journey Grief must not be help captive Grief must have the freedom to be active. When grief is trifled, Healing from your loss can be stifled. Grief needs the attention it deserves Then you can cope with grief journey's sharp curves. Grief will not become the boss. You can become the manager of your feelings of loss. When grief is trifled, Healing from your loss can be stifled. Grief needs the attention it deserves Then you can cope with grief journey's sharp curves. Grief will not become the boss. You can become the manager of your feelings of loss. --Dan Crenshaw Because of the significance of pet bonding, pet loss has a powerfully painful impact. After the shock, you feel the pain as an undeniable fact. Unfortunately society does much to squelch the expression of grief. When one drives without a functioning muffler one will eventually receive a ticket and suffer. The one does not muffle grief society may give verbal warnings which can hamper mourning’s healing buffer. The resulting pain may become much rougher. For the grief there may be little relief. It can become grief that is delayed. Grief work has not been made. When I was ten years old I saw a movie that depicted the Spartan army. In one scene, a huge man was dressed in colorful armor. Has helmet, armor and sword looked formidable and striking. At his side was his eight-year ole son, who was all dressed up in a military garb to his Dad’s liking. In one sense his son looked cute. Then his dad did a brutal act to teach him to become a man and keep his vulnerability mute. In a flash his father wielded his sword and sliced a huge gash on his son‘s right arrn and did not give his son’s suffering a hoot. He glared at his soon and said “That did not hurt did it?” His suffering son silently grimaced and said, “No Daddy it did not hurt.” to avoid being given a boot. His was not entitled to express his pain, as he would be humiliated again and again. The following poem and article expresses how a strong pet bond cam deepen and how others perception of the loss can be deceptively wrong. A Thread of Gold--A Bond Untold A thread of gold has no shape or form. It is far from being a fabric that will adorn. When a needle penetrates the golden thread The fabric begins to take shape as it is artfully fed. A pet bond begins with a seed to sow. It needs to be cultivated for it to grow. The fabric of Fido’s friendship begins its journey to fruition When they have mutually Communicated with fertile conviction. Then the pet friendship begins to thread its way So the shape will mutually fit. The bond is secure as the fabric of friendship Is a thread of gold that has been skillfully sown. The seed of the rich bond has been cultivated As both pet and master have richly grown. This thread of gold can be a bond that is untold When loss occurs to others as fool’s gold. --Dan Crenshaw Disenfranchised Grief Devalues the Impact of Loss and Increases its Challenge In recent years disenfranchised grief has been used to refer to a grief that has no permission to express itself. As a result grief can be chained to the heart. It can become a dire difficult challenge to find the key. The person’s pet loss may not be publically recognized by others. The grieving person may then go to the extreme and not give themselves the freedom to recognize the extinct of their own grief. Thus, because the grief cannot be publically shared, these grievers face special pain and problems from which they should be spared. The demeaning attitude of society can result in their being scared. Their vulnerability may not be wise to be declared. Some people may think that they are impaired. Grief can have the grievers feeling snared. Unless they can find A genuinely caring person their grief may be undeclared. On the other hand you can gradually return to the land of the living aided by others who understand and are giving. A tragedy tries the soul. You need to own and validate your grief and voice the pain of your loss. We have certain Inalienable rights in America. One is that we have freedom of speech. We have the right to give grief full expression to not allow loss to become a leech. It is a part of the human experience and creatively coping is not beyond reach. It is vital that the grief journey become what you beseech The more that your grief feels like tsunami waves in the ocean, the greater you will need compassionate self-devotion. Self-care along with the support of others will help you calm inner commotion. You will protect yourself from emotional corrosion and mental erosion. Your life will gradually experience locomotion.