Inspiring Grace as an Alpha-holic

What Lies Within The Journey Continues: The Alpha Epidemic Choosing the Checklist: Redefining the Alpha The Ah-ha’s Stuck in the Muck Manage Your Own Stuff Quirks Make You Colorful Be the Black Sheep Magik in the Moment The Love Loop Get on the Better-Than Plan Alpha Overdrive Frenetic Energetic I Worry That I Worry Too Much Love Your Label I’m Weird, and So Are You Cancel the Comparative Narrative Get Certain with Uncertainty Fluidity Not Rigidity Be Your Own Woo-Woo Guru Epilogue: Living in Grace - Accepting the Journey Learn more about Lindy’s Vision: Unconditional Acceptance   The Journey Continues: The Alpha Epidemic Hello, my name is Lindy, and I am an alpha-holic. The title of the first book in this trilogy utilized the word “recovering” for a very good reason, as even now I realize that I am definitely not recovered. So, welcome to the second volume of what is absolutely NOT a series of self-help books. Sure, you might have found it in the self-help section, but it’s so much less about learning a whole bunch of new things and so much more about accepting what you already know and are. In my opinion, self-help books can illuminate your deficits to make you feel like you are more messed up than you really are, like you are not enough and are in need of fixing, and that’s simply just not true. You are YOU-nique, and this is a chance to recognize and cultivate that in and for yourself. If you’ve read the previous volume, Recovering Alpha Female, then you likely have an idea of what to expect from the layout and content of this book. While the goal is certainly to offer what is needed, keep those expectations in check. As I like to say, Expectation is Resentment in the Making! Instead of believing that you know exactly what you’re going to get out of these pages, keep an open mind and let the words have their own space to whisper to you and provide the meaning you need, rather than the one you expect. Grab a cup of tea, uncap your highlighter, or maybe lay out your “happy pens” and continue to enjoy the journey. I was (eventually) able to let go of many of my expectations while writing this book, and it has had an authentic influence on the outcome. As many authors will tell you, creating a book is very much like birthing a child. And, like pregnancy and birth, the second “child” is just not quite as scary as the first. I hadn’t counted on this or even realized it was going to happen, but I sure am glad I didn’t stick with my expectation that it was going to be a terrifyingly difficult process. It reminds me that recovering from my Alpha ways is a daily practice and that the more open I am to it, the more I see Grace in my life. My Alpha side still rears its head from time to time. After all, being an Alpha Female is a huge part of my personality. It’s been my go-to and comfort zone for many years. Recognizing, accepting, and holding space for myself has required a beautiful and much-needed transition. Sometimes embracing this aspect of who I am is a pretty good thing, but it can also feel like a relapse. When it comes to making these kinds of major changes, it’s important to remember that we are recovering, not “recovered.”