Introduction: The Invitation
“Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered— either by themselves or by others.”~ Mark Twain
Brilliant ideas die in the dust of self-doubt. Do you ever feel that you are not good enough? Does fear prevent you from stepping forward? Lack of self-worth and the Five Foundation-Shaking Fears prevent people, every second, from sharing their talents, message, and love with the world. Is this you?
If you were consistently the most positive, productive, enthusiastic, decisive, and attractive person you know, what would that give you? What difference would that make in terms of your relationships, your work, and your finances?
In Hot Confidence: Conscious Pathways to Take You from Mini-Me to Magnificent, you’ll discover:
• How you can switch your fear and self-doubt into glowing confidence and sizzling self-esteem, so you can live, love, and give fully
• The major reasons that you’re not following through on your dreams, ideas, and visions
• How to recognize and master the true magnetic potential within you, so you can attract the great relationships you deserve and express your talents and your message boldly and authentically
Hot Confidence is dedicated to freeing your potential and your creative outcomes. By virtue of what you manifest, the world can be transformed. This book promises to provide you with a roadmap to resilient, rock-solid confidence. In it you will learn a comprehensive, easy-to-follow system that will enable you to:
1. Identify unhelpful beliefs and strategies, usually set in place before you were seven years of age and possibly before birth and even conception (Whatever you do or don’t believe about past lives and reincarnation, I suggest an open-minded approach for the sake of more easily stepping into your fullest potential.)
2. Clear out old thought patterns and unhelpful strategies
3. Retrieve the positive, resourceful responses that have been inside you all along
4. Install new ways of thinking and being, enabling your choice to be confident, certain, and magnetic
5. Appreciate the results of your achievements, thereby creating new reference points for confidence and self-esteem
6. Celebrate the you that you aspire to be
The proven, life-changing system outlined in this book incorporates ancient yogic knowledge with cutting-edge findings from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Positive Psychology, powerful coaching techniques, and real-life stories. The Hot Confidence breakthrough sequence blends best practices from East and West, seasoned with over a quarter-century of dedicated experience in helping people find their unique voice. It will assist you to become bold in self-expression for passion, wealth-creation, and giving.
Do you find change causes you stress? Have you ever felt undervalued? Do you realize that you have intelligence, skills, life experiences, and abilities that can be transferred into other pursuits? Did you know that up to eighty-five percent of your potential might not have been tapped yet?
Would you like to do something different with your life, but lack the confidence to make the break? I once asked a group of thirty-five advanced life-coach students this question: If you were to identify the single, greatest obstacle to your personal success and happiness, what would that be?
Some lively conversation ensued. The key personal obstacles identified by these Diploma in Life and Executive Coaching students were:
• Self-doubt• Low self-esteem• Lack of confidence to apply what I’ve learned • Fear of not getting it right • Fear of not being good enough
All of the tactical, practical skills, models, cutting-edge techniques, and world-class business-building strategies they had received as part of their training were not enough to enable this group of educated and committed coaches to apply what they knew in their own lives.
It was as if a lightening bolt shot through me. I was keenly aware of the cost of remaining a prisoner to fear, doubt, and low self-esteem. I felt compelled to offer something to this group that would give these extraordinary individuals a clear route out of their inertia. I knew that to galvanize them, I needed to help them understand the massive losses resulting from an inability to take confident action. When inertia rules, every area of life is affected. The scale of the sacrifices caused by inaction affects loved ones, finances, health, and the choices available to us.
It was not enough to say to these coaches: “Think of all those who might benefit if you were able get on with the business of sharing your unique message, putting your amazing skill sets to good use!” They needed something practical, some new knowledge to assist them.
The solution I found was a perfect coming together of Eastern and Western approaches to healing and well-being. The process that evolved out of that memorable training experience has proven to be a winning formula for me and for my clients, because it is a step-by-step, thorough program that attends to:
1. How we communicate
2. How we attribute meaning to past experiences
3. How to change that meaning at will
4. How to clear and align the body’s subtle energy system
Taken together and presented systematically, this knowledge has transformed lives. May it help transform your life, opening the door to the self-confidence you deserve and the achievement of all your dreams!
This guide to achieving Hot Confidence is the first of two books in a series. This first volume, Hot Confidence, builds your strong foundation, empowering your full discovery of the lustrous jewel of your authentic, powerful self.