Self Love: The Journey Home

Really, what is self-love? How do we learn truly to love ourselves when we carry so many wounds and emotional damage, sorrow, pains, disappointments, and disillusionments from lifetime to lifetime? How does our soul heal? From where does it get respite and what is the path to healing? Do we ever get to healing, or do we just live this cycle over and over until we break? From where do we source our self-love? And why, why do we so profoundly lack self-love? Lots of questions that require tangible answers. The term self-love is bantered around a lot these days as if it was a new buzz word or trend. However, it is neither and is rarely defined with clarity therefore left open to interpretation. This leads to many using the term interchangeably with self-care and confusing it with false ego love. So, let’s clarify first, so we may then understand the components of authentic self-love. I can tell you what self-love is not; it is not false ego love where you pump yourself up with attributes you don’t possess and don’t truly believe you have. It is not convincing yourself that you are your self-created idealized self-image. Nor is it giving false lip service to yourself and others portraying a false persona that does not exist. Self-love derives from an inner space of authenticity, radical honesty, self-knowledge and acknowledgment, radical and unconditional self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-forgiveness. It is the way in which we perceive, value and honor ourselves despite our faults and shortcomings. It also predicates and encompasses the understanding of your spiritual origins and identity. In short, that you are spiritual being having a temporary physical human existence and not the other way around and what this means tangibly. (See Book 1 – Me, Myself and I)