The New Model of Love

Introduction The most coveted prize in any relationship including romance is to be loved. All love songs speak of lost love, rejection or their lover not loving them anymore. Likewise, movies and novels depict men and women craving for love and looking for love, looking for someone to love them. Throughout history, we have been conditioned by society, media, education, and family to believe we want and indeed need love to be happy. This book examines and challenges this tightly held and deep-seated belief. Because of this conviction, our world is in its present state. With all the scientific and technological advances in the last two hundred years, we have not moved one inch when it comes to love and happiness. Indeed, we have gone backward. To understand why and how we have come to such a belief we will first have to examine and redefine love itself. Once we have an empowering definition of love, we will begin to explore the origins of the old model of love and observe that it no longer serves us to remain within its confines. It is daunting to confront the old model of love, but once you have conquered this fear, you will be free to love as you have never loved before. Once you move to The New Model of Love, you will find freedom in love and freedom from the shackles of needing love from others. You will stop seeking love and start creating love for yourself. Conversations at Christmas parties are always thought-provoking after a few beers and wines. But none had had such an impact on me and my relationships as one during a heated discussion on love and relationships during a Christmas party in December 2015. An energetic personality colleague posed a question. “Who should initiate the relationship, the man or the woman?” My answer was somewhat New Age inspired. “It doesn’t matter because the law of reciprocity dictates that when you love first, they will return your love many folds!” That was the extent of my contribution to the conversation. During my drive home, my answer to the question of who should initiate a relationship triggered an epiphany. I wondered from where love comes. This inquiry led me to discover The New Model of Love. Working backward from The New Model of Love I deduced we all live in the old model of love and that old model has been the source of all our relationship ills. Armed with The New Model of Love I started to tell everyone about my Christmas party epiphany. Had everyone agreed with me, this book wouldn’t exist, but ninety-nine percent of those I had talked to disagreed with my epiphany and no amount of convincing budged their entrenched attachment to the old model of love. I pondered why it took me one short conversation to discover this life-changing new perspective while I couldn’t convince others of this game changer of a model. The penny dropped when I realized that I had a unique background that had enabled me to grasp the new model. This book is about leading you through my journey to that fateful night of the fourth of December 2015. You too will have the background to spark the epiphany to bring forth The New Model of Love for you. You will discover it at some point during your reading of this book. As you voyage through this book, you may experience the different stages of grief as you start to lose the old model of love and finally accept The New Model of Love. You may deny the loss of the old model. You may get angry at me for suggesting the old model is the culprit behind your relationship disasters. You may bargain and make trade-offs for what you could do differently within the old model so you would not have to give it up completely. You may get depressed about the loss of the old model that you have held so dear for so long. Finally, you will want to discard the obsolete old model of love and accept The New Model of Love to Naturally Supercharge Your Relationships. Brace yourself for the epic battle of the supermodels of love.