TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Vio-lence, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting, deliberate smearing and significant losses you’ve endured and then to be able to understand, express and heal from your trauma can be especially challenging. Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal. The TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books provide infor-mation on and an emotional, experiential and creative response to many terms & phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma. Learning terminology, reading and creating acrostic and free-verse poems, and even doing Word Search Puzzles may result in much-needed validation as you reflect on what you’ve been through while you connect the dots to your own experiences. Writing can help make sense of your emotions and experiences and can be extremely therapeutic on your healing journey. In time, the abuser’s mask slips, and with your own research and creative outlet, you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice, reclaim your authentic self and live a blessed and happy life filled with abundance, gratitude and love. This volume, Book 5 (purple) of the series is a Word Search Puz-zle book. The physical and mental act of completing these 55 Word Search puzzles is a safe and relaxing activity and a creative response to dealing with the abuse and trauma you have experi-enced; at the same time you will be exposed to and learn many of the related terms. Searching for words activates the part of your brain that controls thinking, logic and reasoning. Scientific research has proven that solving puzzles builds brain memory, improves problem-solving skills and enhances your mood. Solving a puzzle can be challenging, just as solving the problems in our lives. You have already started your journey on solving the many layers of your abusive relationship puzzle, and there is most likely no coinci-dence you are reading this book (and the other books in the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series), so learning the terms and doing these therapeutic Word Search Puzzles will help you move toward healing and closure. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Word Search Puzzles on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma To help you on your healing journey, please refer to the enormous, yet incomplete (new verbiage is being continually developed), list of words in the Book 1 (blue) volume of this series: TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 Terms & Phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation In the Book 2 (green) volume of the series, these terms & phrases were used to inspire alphabetical acrostic poems. There are 13 po-ems for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet, resulting in 338 acrostic poems. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Alphabetical Acrostic Anthems on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation The corresponding Book 3 (red) volume of the series is a Survi-vor’s Acrostic Poetry Workbook, where the reader is able to per-sonally create, write and author his/her own acrostic poems. For each letter of the alphabet there are suggested terms & phrases, 1 completed poem for an example, 2 poem recommendations and 3 lined pages for words/poems of your own choosing. This results in 6 poems for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet, so there will be 156 poems when the workbook is completed. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Survivor’s Acrostic Poetry Workbook on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation The Book 4 (yellow) volume of the series is a Free-Verse Poetry Collection of 13 poems. TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: A Free-Verse Poetry Collection Recovering from the extreme complex trauma and stress of this type of abuse is a process and takes a great deal of time. You may have been able to move on or move far away to reclaim your life, but you continue to be haunted by your experiences and dashed hopes for your future. Most of us have to deal with breaking trau-ma bonds and our abuser’s continued emotional, physical, cyber or legal stalking and harassment for years. You may feel alone as your support system has vanished, although in time, this period of isola-tion proves to be helpful as you regain your independence and in-ner strength. During your recovery efforts of self-healing and to understand your role in this unfortunate situation, it is helpful to reflect on and examine your family of origin dynamics and acknowledge your own childhood traumas, abandonment issues, core wounds and possible intergenerational family abuse that most likely contributed to your naivety and unmet emotional needs, eventually leading you to choosing toxic, controlling and abusive partnerships. This history may have resulted in you trusting too much too soon, being an over-giver or having weak boundaries, making you the perfect target for your abuser. You are not crazy. You didn’t do anything to deserve the mali-cious treatment you received at the hands of your abuser and his/her Flying Monkeys. Don’t be hard on yourself that it took you so long to finally see things for what they really are; abusers are skilled master-manipulators and put great efforts into hiding their venomous, vindictive and vile deceit behind their fraudulent mask. You know the truth of what you’ve been through. Understanding ourselves, as well as learning the dynamics of toxic individuals who engage in Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and/or Intergenerational Family Trauma, can be very enlightening and help empower you to move towards peace and self-actualization. Your survivor voice matters. Turn your neg-ative experiences into positive opportunities to evolve into the gen-uine person that you were meant to be. Don’t be surprised if you experience some type of Spiritual Awakening and are now more in tune with the universe’s signs and synchronicities. Have faith. This may be a good time to reconnect, embrace and trust in a Divine Higher Source. You never know, God could even come to your garage sale!