Simply Spirit

When we act out of love there is no right or wrong, merely lessons learned. When we leave our personal opinions and judgments out of the way we open ourselves up to choices that are best for everyone concerned. Others may disagree with our actions or show resentment towards us but it is important to allow them to express their feelings and respect where they are at. It’s not easy being the catalyst in someone else’s life lesson but know that by stepping up and taking action you are doing their soul and yours more good than anything else. Not being and expressing who you truly are is a disservice to everyone. If someone doesn’t recognize that you are acting out of love for them don’t despair or judge them. Allow them to honour themselves when and how they feel appropriate. They will discover their own integrity in their own way. Our problems don’t come from outside sources - they start within by our own choice. When we create a problem we create a barrier that prevents us from seeing the bigger picture and the only one who can resolve a problem is the one who has the problem. I’m not saying that you cannot ask for help or advice but I am saying that you are responsible for your life and your outlook. You choose how to feel or act at any given moment. Acknowledge and honour your feelings as they arise so that you can express or be your authentic self. A number of years ago I had to be the catalyst in a lesson for a couple very near and dear to me but it took two years for me to finally speak up and act on it. I allowed an arrangement between all of us that was not good for my personal boundaries, out of a sense of compassion and obligation. I believed that I was doing what was best for all concerned and I knew that they would have done the same for me if I had been in their situation. As time went on, I felt the resentment slowly build up inside me. When it got really bad I would work on calming myself down and focusing on positive things to settle my mood, and I would also count my blessings. This would usually work and within a day or so I felt my normal self again. Since I was the only one who didn’t like the way things were, I believed that I was the one with the problem and therefore I needed to work on my attitude. I would experience resentful moods from time to time which I believed was just my ego resisting the way it was. But gradually the resentment got worse and I realized what my real problem was. I was not honouring myself by speaking my truth about how I felt. How could I expect things to change by not being honest with myself and those around me?