Spirit Speaks

Bob and Betty’s story is not uncommon. I have told their story in my previous book Walking with Spirit. It is the type of story that I will tell many times because of the impact it had on my life. Bob and Betty came to see me in the earlier days when I finally came out of hiding and stepped into doing this work. I will never forget this session. It was not only about them, it was as though my guides were showing me the importance of using our gifts to help others, and to trust in what comes through. Betty rang me to make an appointment to speak with her mother who had died. For the week prior to her arrival a rather troubled spirit of a man had been bugging me. I knew his life had not been a healthy one. I kept getting glimpses of things that he had done which were not pleasant to see. Betty arrived accompanied by her husband. As he walked in the door, arms folded, he said, “I have come just to let you know that I think this is all bullshit!” My anger immediately bubbled to the surface. I said, “Well this is not actually about you and I am not concerned with what you think. If you intend to stay then you will sit down and shut up. This is for your wife and her mother, and it matters not that you don’t believe in it. Everyone has the right to believe what they damn-well like!” I looked quickly at his wife. She was bright red and I could see written on her face, “This is going to be a disaster. I have spent two hours in a car to come to a disaster!” I immediately felt remorse for having put her in that position and I felt very unprofessional. Later I realized it was the perfect response if somewhat radical, but it is not one I recommend. To try and calm the whole atmosphere down, I then apologized for my behavior, asked them to be seated and made them a cup of tea. Don’t underestimate the effects of the good old cuppa. The mums and grans of old knew something about giving troubled people a cup of tea at the kitchen table. As I was making the tea the man in spirit stood beside me saying, “Tell him; tell him.” Then I knew this man was Bob’s father! I also knew that I had been wrong. This was about Bob as well as Betty. It was actually about them as a couple. Bob’s dad made it clear to me that their marriage was in trouble because of Bob’s anger toward his farther. The anger was consuming Bob. Our loved ones on the other side are clever. Betty’s mum and Bob’s dad had got together to try and work a miracle and save their children’s marriage. When I sat down I looked at Bob and said, “I am okay with you not believing. You are as entitled not to believe as I am to believe. There is no right or wrong here, just experience. However, I have had a man in spirit with me all week and I know it is your dad. He has a lot to say to you.” With that it was as if Bob’s dad showed me a film of his own life. • He had been an alcoholic • Wasted all of their money on gambling and beer • Belted Bob’s mother from time to time • Had a fight with two men outside the pub where he drank (which he showed me in great detail) and • Sexually interfered with Bob’s two sisters He then showed me the house where he used to live (again in great detail) and the rubbish that piled up in the back yard. The clarity with which it all came through was awesome. And then Bob’s dad said, “Tell him his anger at me is sending him down the same path I went down. It will destroy his marriage if he doesn’t do something about it. Tell him I know he has not been sexually active with Betty for the past five years. His anger at me is stopping him from being a loving husband. Tell him I am so sorry and I seek his forgiveness.” This session changed the lives of these two people. Two days later Betty rang me to say how blown away Bob had been by the experience. He sent flowers to her place of work the next day with a message that said, “Please try and get off work early today. I have arranged for the kids to be cared for by a friend overnight. I am taking you out for dinner. I love you.” They had little sleep during that night as they talked through all of their issues. They had the most intimate, beautiful night they could ever remember having. Betty did get to talk with her mother who also relayed back to them a whole heap of stuff I could not have possibly known about. Mum and Dad on the other side did a pretty good job at bringing about healing for their children. What was my role in all of this? Simply to show up and say yes to being willing to facilitate the connection! More importantly my role was to trust. Trust Bob’s dad, trust Betty’s mum, trust my guides and trust that all was as it was meant to be.