Keep It Simple, Spirit

I Prefer Tea Parties…Not Pity Parties!
I remember having tea parties with my daughters when they were young. And when I think back to that time, I feel regret that perhaps I wasn’t in the moment quite enough. I’d love to remember more details about these events, but perhaps this is just an indication that I need to have more tea parties in my life.
When things really become stressful and overwhelm you, perhaps the immediate remedy of a Pity Party sounds great. If you feel the need to eat a liter of ice cream and wallow in your pain for a few hours, that’s fine. But don’t stay there! Do take the time to feel what is below the surface, or it will re-surface again, in a different way, called Life Lessons! So roll up your sleeves and get below that surface of pity. Your Spirit will be really thankful that you did.
Reflection:
Are you having too many pity parties? You know, the days when you feel down in the dumps, that poor me attitude. If you don’t address the issue immediately and you use a distraction to get your spirits up again, that’s fine. But promise yourself to address it in the near future.
Using distraction or repressing the emotions is akin to placing a little Band-Aid on the wound. As I mentioned earlier, that same issue will resurface, because it is camping out in your unconscious mind. It is just waiting in for the right moment to burst out again, which probably won’t be the right moment for you. Sooner or later, you will deal with this issue, so why not deal with it now?
When you can find a quiet moment, allow this issue to resurface in a safe place. Set aside a minimum of one hour (which may be challenging), to resolve it once and for all. Have a pen and paper ready to write or journal your thoughts on paper. Keep writing. It does not have to be perfect; it only has to be released. If you don’t know what to write, then write, “I don’t know what to write…” Just the process of writing this truthful statement repeatedly usually unblocks the process.
You can also begin by writing a series of “I am” statements. For example, “I am sad that I can’t go to the picnic.” Replace the sad statement with angry, lonely, etc. with whatever emotions pop into your mind. Don’t think about it too much, you are using your subconscious thoughts to do this exercise.
When I first began journaling, I used to write about everything but the issue I needed to address! It got easier with time. Now I just get right to the issue to see what emotions are hiding below the surface.
Just review the chapter The Queen – or King of Denial and do the exercises there if you keep having writer’s block.
Like any other practices in this book, releasing the issues takes time. Keep practicing, and soon your mind and your heart will become willing partners in this focusing game. Then you will really have a great reason for that tea party!
Well, I feel it’s that it’s time you dust off that good china (who’s going to get it after you’re gone anyway?) and have your own tea party – for celebration, not pity!